Most people would say that they were trustworthy and reliable. Surely it would be insulting to suggest otherwise? And yet, in your own experience you can probably remember times when you:
• Said you were going to wake up early but then pushed the snooze button and went back to sleep
• Promised to yourself you would clean the house before you went out, but then went out anyway.
• Resolved to not check your Blackberry for the next hour but then couldn’t resist having a “quick look”
Each of these “transgressions” point towards someone who cannot be trusted to keep their word to themselves.
It may not seem like much when you say you’ll do something and then don’t, but each time it happens, you erode a little bit of trust in yourself. Repeatedly failing to do even the smallest thing that you promised to yourself will eventually lead to a situation where you don’t believe a word you say.
This is very common. People make promises to themselves, even while knowing that they aren’t going to follow through. This affects your entire life but is of course, very relevant to weight loss. Losing weight requires making a commitment to make changes in your habits and behaviour. Many serial dieters are people who get excited about a new way of losing weight, try hard for a few weeks and then give up. Over time, the cynicism and scepticism build up (as you would expect) until they get to a point where they embark on the next weight loss programme fully expecting to fail.
This repeated breaking of promises leads to the “yeah right” phenomenon. You decide to do something and a little voice in your mind says “yeah right”.
Self-belief, the confidence in your ability to succeed relies on you being able to “trust” yourself. If you hardly ever do what you say you will do, then you won’t have faith in yourself.
So what’s the solution?
From the smallest task to the biggest project, only ever say you’ll do something if you are 100% sure you will do it. Only say you’ll wake up at 6am if you are sure you will do it. Conversely, if you don’t think you will wake up that early, then don’t even pretend that you will. Starting with small things, creates a track record of success that you can then build on.
The aim here is to cultivate a personal rule that if you say it, it will be done, no matter what. This is the foundation of trust in yourself and how you can develop greater self-confidence.
Dr. Khandee Ahnaimugan is a medical doctor who provides a bespoke behavioural programme for weight loss. To book a comprehensive assessment at his Harley Street Clinic please email firstname.lastname@example.org or phone +44 (0) 20 3130 4770.