A client of mine recently went on holiday to Spain. One day they had an early lunch and then there was a particularly long gap before dinner.

When she finally sat down for their meal, she was confronted with lots of bread and dips and Mediterranean starters. Feeling quite hungry by this stage, my client found it hard to resist and in her own words “stuffed myself silly”. Afterwards she felt very angry at herself for succumbing to the temptation.

But is she right to feel so disappointed and upset with herself? I say no. The fact is when you are hungry, you are always going to find it hard to resist temptation. This isn’t a fault or a flaw, it is simply the way we are. In our ancestor’s time, it was not a smart move to decline food. If it was available you ate it, since you never knew when your next meal would be.

In this case of my client with the Mediterranean platter, the fault does not lie in not being able to resist a table of delicious food when you are hungry. The fault lies in allowing yourself to get so hungry beforehand.

Much is made of the importance of willpower in managing your weight. But I think if you rely on willpower to stay slim you are really narrowing your chances of success. Our brains are programmed to want to eat food when we are hungry. Why fight against yourself?

Life can be difficult sometimes but there’s no need to add to the difficulties by blaming yourself for things that are totally understandable.

Dr. Khandee Ahnaimugan (Dr. K) is a medical doctor, weight loss expert and author of the best-selling book, “Slim and Healthy without Dieting”. He provides individual consulting programmes for people wanting to lose weight without dieting. Try his 7 Day “How to Lose Weight without Dieting” Email Course for FREE at www.doctorkweightloss.com

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Based in London’s Harley Street, Dr. K provides individual behavioural weight loss programmes for women over 40. He is also the author of the Amazon bestseller: “Slim and Healthy without Dieting – The Weight Loss Solution for Women over 40”