Imagine you’ve just finished reading “Slim and Healthy without Dieting” and decided to lose weight using my approach.
A few weeks later, you’ve lost three pounds (which is great, by the way) but you’re still feeling a bit unsure about the whole thing.
That night you’re at a party and you speak to a woman who, coincidence of coincidences has also discovered Dr. K.
But she’s lost 20 pounds!
How did she do it?
Does she have some remarkable character trait that you don’t?
What is her secret?
She has a secret. It’s one thing she has done that you haven’t. I’ll tell you what that is in a second.
One Person’s Ease. Another Person’s Difficulty.
Prior to last year, my experience with helping women lose weight was based on one-to-one clinic sessions each week.
But since last March when I set up an internet forum, I’ve had the opportunity to see weight loss from a whole different angle, because I get to interact with forum members on a daily basis.
Today when I was on the forum, I saw someone who was quite successfully making changes to their eating habits and noticing BIG changes in their appetite (decreasing) and improved food choices.
While another forum member was still finding it difficult.
What was the difference between these women?
The Difference that Makes a Difference
There’s a simple answer.
One was in Week 4 of the course. And the other was in Week 14.
This is enough to account for all the differences between these two women. The one who was finding it easier had simply been doing it for longer.
How these changes take shape
When you first start to lose weight, it is perfectly natural to have doubts. It’s perfectly natural to feel like success is far away. This is especially true if you’ve had a long history of weight struggles.
But if you keep with it (remember, “the only way you can fail with this approach is if you give up”) you’ll start to notice some differences.
You’ll become more aware of your appetite. You’ll realise that what you thought was hunger, was not.
You’ll see that you can cut back portions a bit, and not notice any change in satisfaction or enjoyment.
You’ll start to eat less. And then even less. When you look at your food diary, it will get smaller and smaller each week.
These changes happen slowly to begin with, but accelerate over time.
It’s a glorious thing to behold when I see someone’s eating transform right before my eyes on their food diary.
When you do this, suddenly next thing you know, you’re at Week 14, and someone who’s at Week 4 is looking at your food diary and thinking “How does she eat so little?”
But this is why I think you need to give time for weight loss to occur. You can’t rush it.
If I was to start pressuring the person in Week 4 to eat like the person in Week 14, it would be overwhelming and not helpful.
On most diets, you’re made to feel bad about over-eating. But I don’t agree with this at all. In my experience being gentle, supportive and non-judgmental is a much better way to get results.
The difference between you and the person who’s succeeded is TIME. They’ve given it the time to let it work.
Losing weight using a behavioural approach is a journey and you need to take it at the right speed.
Of course, sometimes it takes longer. And sometimes less time. But it’s OK. It doesn’t matter how long it takes.
There’s no prizes for quick weight loss. But there is one for sustainable weight loss. And that prize is being slim and healthy for life.
I want to hear from you:
Do you feel rushed to lose weight?
Do you look at others who are slim and feel impatient to get there?
Do you feel discouraged when you see others have reached their goal, forgetting that they’re just further along the road than you?
Do you wonder if you can ever eat less?
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P.S. If you are interested in joining my internet forum, registrations are currently closed. But you’ll get the opportunity in May when I open up my Transformation Online Course to new registrations.